Tiffany Haddish is one funny lady, and it’s hard earned humor. I’ve found that a lot of funny people have hard pasts. Humor is their armor and their survival gear. Its how they get through the hard things – if they can find something funny about their situation, their life, if they can find a way to make other people laugh through their story, then it isn’t so bad.
Tiffany has a lot of reasons to try to find humor in her life. Her father left when she was 3, her step-father tried to kill her mother, instead, leaving her a shell of her former self, and a mean, angry shell at that! Her mother vacillated from comatose to bullying and violent, always directed at Tiffany, who had to grow up fast and raise her younger half-siblings. She became a ward of the state and felt as though she was unworthy of love. Many of us have been there.
She’s honest about her poor decision making and bad choices, brutally honest, and it’s not a book for the young or faint of heart. I wouldn’t hand this book to my 14 yr old, or my mother. But I would recommend it to my bad*ss women friends who enjoy humor, and the ones’ who saw “Girl’s Trip”, or have seen Tiffany Haddish on Jimmy Kimmel or watched her comedy shows. She’s real, and her book is like listening to a TV or radio interview – she doesn’t sugar coat her story or try to make the bad parts seem better. She talks about her bad marriage, her crazy relationships, sex, love, abuse, assault, and her brief time as a pimp. Yes, a for real pimp. Her language is as colorful as a sailor’s and she makes no apologies. If this makes you uncomfortable, you probably won’t enjoy her book.
Overall, her story is one of survival, the power of overcoming, and perseverance. She followed her dream and went through really tough things to get there. She didn’t give up, she went through some bumps in the road, some detours, made decisions that might have put her off course, but who hasn’t done that? She may speak a language more blunt and coarse than you, but her story is inspiring.
Many who have gone through the things she has survived have not achieved half of the things Tiffany has, and many of them have not forgiven near as much. I have not been through nearly as much as she has, although I have some things I hold hard in my past, and she has easily forgiven much more than I have managed to forgive. I’m working on it, but she makes it seem so much easier, and she seems much happier for it. While I may not express myself as she does, she has far outgrown me in many areas of her personal life, forgiveness is one thing she’s attained, that many of us have not.
Kudos to her, and her happier, fulfilled life. This book leaves me invested in her future, and wishing her all the best!
You can find a radio interview of Tiffany where she talks about her book and some of the stories in it here.
You can find Tiffany’s Jimmy Kimmel interview here.
Jada Pinket Smith talks about Tiffany Haddish on Jimmy Fallon here.